评陕西“同床保姆”广告及对此的评论

周黎明 发表于 2006-11-11 18:18:52

跟珠三角高楼大厦里的二奶相比,陕西劳务市场招聘的只是“穷人的二奶”而已。

Moral worries mad about maid advert
By Raymond Zhou

Maids make up a big segment in China's labour market. Many middle-class families employ them, freeing wage-earners from household chores and helping balance the economy by allowing their wealth to trickle down.

Recently, a labour market in Shaanxi Province has been advertising a special kind of maid, who not only takes care of cooking and cleaning, but offers "bed-sharing" services with the head of the household.

According to the advert, these maids tend to be from rural areas -- a totally redundant description since almost all maids have rural backgrounds -- are over 35 years old and earn a high 2,000 yuan (US0) a month, in a market where a regular maid's pay is about 500 yuan (US).

As one can imagine, the moral warriors are jumping up and down in a carnival of denunciation. Some have suggested the police "monitor" employer-maid relations.

I don't know how that can be done. Does it mean police should barge into families with maids, at midnight, unannounced, as they used to do in hotels? To make that proposal feasible, anyone who hires a maid will have to surrender their privacy.

According to one dubious survey, around 5 per cent of maids have sex with their employers. Is that something we should tolerate? It all depends on the circumstances.

In most cases, it is the result of sexual harassment. Even though things happen within the confines of a private space, it is not different in nature from advances in an office environment.

The top priority is for those in this line of work to be aware of the potential "occupational hazard" and learn how to protect themselves. It is the job of employment agencies to educate them beforehand and the duty of women's associations to intervene whenever maids report such incidents.

Now I don't believe most employers are sex maniacs. They may be tempted, but when they know their maids are armed with legal knowledge and understand where to draw the line, they will back down and behave.

The Shaanxi case, if the report is accurate, is another story. Though widely considered immoral, this act, in my opinion, is less despicable than preying on the uninitiated.

We have to see this in the proper social context. Prostitution, albeit illegal, is rampant under umpteen guises. More relevant is "ernai," (二奶) a uniquely Chinese phenomenon whereby a man takes a second wife and stashes her away in another abode.

Police may have periodic crackdown on prostitution, but nobody has heard of a vice squad against ernai unless it involves an official who falls from grace.

The relationship is not legally protected, but people seem to have a tacit understanding about what would otherwise be put in a prenuptial agreement.

The Shaanxi "bed-sharing" maid is just a variation on the high-priced Pearl River Delta kind, a poor man's ernai. We wish these women were jolted out of contentment and fought for their legal rights. But whatever vestige of feminism they may have, it is foiled by the strong pull of commercialism.

Granted, the Shaanxi ad should not have existed. It is a sad reminder of the dynamic chaos we live in today. It testifies to the yawning wealth gap, the insufficiency of decent jobs, and the need for empowering women to protect themselves.

However, it would be a cop-out to clean up the ad and punish the advertiser, while sweeping the fundamental issues under the rug.

 

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最新评论


  • 外星人
    2006-11-11 18:48:52

    “二奶”是不是中国特有的?其实“一夫一妻制”是为男人着想的,“婚姻”是爱情的墓,很难想象他不介意再死一回。


  • 一切都是为了钱
    2006-11-12 14:04:24

    “一夫一妻制”实际上是个经济制度,有利于保证家族财产的完整,减少子女数量,保持整体社会的稳定,和感情关系不大。

    西方人实行的是“先后多妻制”,这个制度比“同时多妻制”还是要进步一点。

    说到底,二奶问题还是贫富差距和妇女受教育普及程度的问题,这两个问题解决了,二奶供给将会大大减少。


  • 周黎明
    2006-11-13 21:14:49

    西方人实行的是“先后多妻制”,这个制度比“同时多妻制”还是要进步一点。

    这话很经典。


  • 雨不亭
    2006-11-13 23:29:28

    周黎明先生,常关注你文章,还质疑过你的评论!
    我BLOG开了个“写影评的人”链接栏,未经允许已经加了你的BLOG链接,请谅解:)
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  • 小桥流水
    2006-11-14 11:44:35

    有个可疑的调查显示:女人做二奶是最具性价比的产业。
    如果说二奶让人可恨又可气,做同床保姆就是可悲又可怜了。一个女人,到何种地步才会走上这条路? 连感情都得不到。
    不禁要问,我们大中国的男人们都怎么了,我们大中国的女人怎么了?

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